I am not Mr. Manners, but there is one thing I know: when someone says, “For personal reasons, I don’t want to do this,” what they are really saying is “It’s none of your business why I don’t want to do this.”
Robert Heinlein wrote a book called Friday, in which the main character is asked what the first sign of civilization collapsing is and she correctly answered that it’s a lack of basic civility.
Sadly, I think that day has arrived.